I have resolutely decided that because I do believe that the leaders have acted unbiblically, that I have two choices:
1. If I continue to comply with them, I will be in direct disobedience to God and that is not good;
2. if I follow what God wants, I will be in disobedience to the leaders.
But I have been taught that if the rule of man conflicts with the rule of God that I am ALWAYS supposed to follow the rule of God.
So, in light of what I have been taught, and in light of the fact that continued disobedience to God could mean that God will punish me and His punishment is much worse than any punishment from men, I have decided that I can no longer comply with the leaders as continuing to do so means direct disobedience to God.
This is scary as heck for me because either way I am in defiance of somebody, but I fear God more than I do the leaders and thus I must do what I know God wants even if it means disobeying the leaders.